(then =
eric's wedding)
then:
after the ceremony, we are the first people to the reception. we head straight to the bar and order a drink for each hand. it is an open bar, why not? we have spent the whole day relaxing, playing
bocce, chatting over cards. we made sure to catch a ride so we don't have to worry about driving home. we find a table, sit back in our chairs and sip our drinks while we chat about the wedding and wait for everyone to arrive. we are carefree and relaxed, a fact which is apparent in every hair flip, every leg cross.

now: after the ceremony, we are the first people to the reception. we head straight to the balcony to feed the baby dinner. we have spent the whole day feeding, diapering, entertaining, watching. we drive so we have a place for the car seat and also because grandma needs a ride. we find a table and pull out an array of accessories for feeding the baby. we are (really i am) nervous and tense, a fact which is apparent in every glance at the clock, every question to the babysitter.
*sigh* how times have changed! this was our first experience (well, really second if you count
brett's wedding, but
brett's wedding was such a blur and my only goal was survival. we aren't counting that one.) with
sullivan at a big event. our plan was to get to the reception early so we could feed him and hopefully get him to sleep as soon as possible. a million things were running through my head as
ryan was feeding him his peas and brown rice
. what time is it? is it too early? is it too late? will he be too full to nurse? will he be too distracted for nurse? who are these babysitters? where is sullivan going to sleep? is he even going to be able to sleep? people are probably going to be going in and out of that room. it looked like there were a lot of purses in there. what about the phone, what if it rings and wakes him up? what about the dj? how loud will that be? is there only one pack and play? what about the other babies? where will they sleep? what if they fall asleep first? where will sullivan sleep? what if he wakes up and no one hears and he cries and cries and cries? you get the idea. i was a ball of tension and stress.
ryan practically forced me downstairs to get a drink to try and help me relax. i brought us back some drinks, tried to relax a little and listen to the mariachi band. i knew that as soon as
sullivan was asleep i would be able to relax because most of my worries had to do with getting him down, so i was antsy to get him into his pajamas and sleep mode. as we were sitting on the patio,
eric came out with
oliver singing a song with lyrics that went something like "parties are no fun with
baaaaaaabies,
baaaaaabies make parties no fun!" he totally hit the nail on the head and it made me feel so much better that we weren't the only people in the baby boat. and actually, there were a lot of people there dealing with kids and babies, and they were all handling it just fine so i needed to suck it up, accept the situation for what it was, relax a little and enjoy myself as much as i could. after that, i stopped worrying about what could potentially happen and just concerned myself with what i could control. we put
sullivan down, and it was a little difficult, but he fell asleep and stayed asleep, and
ryan and i had a great time. i took the below picture right when
eric came out singing his song. we are in
babyland now, and it isn't so bad. :)